Your Cheatin' Heart

I have spent another day as a Domestic Goddess. Cooking, cleaning, and laundry filled my day with glee. I love the smell of cooking food in the house. It makes it feel like a home to me. The sounds of my children fighting each other over who gets the last Yoo-Hoo, along with the smell of baking bread fills me with domestic bliss (and a small amount of homicidal rage...but mostly domestic bliss). Among my many activities today, I found time to have my usual Sunday conversation via phone with my mother. She has an uncanny ability to make me question every decision that I have made since I was 10 yrs old. She always manages to work my lack of a boyfriend or significant other into the conversation. This is seen as a major deficit in my life by her. A deficit rivaled only by the one carried by our government. Hell, our government is better off than I am in her eyes. I told her what I tell her every time we have this conversation. I choose to be alone. I don't want to be with anyone. Relationships take time and energy, both of which I have precious little. Not only that, but men are biologically prone to cheat. Yes, I said it and I'm not taking it back. Men simply can't keep it in their pants! Men have a biological need to have sex with different women. Most of them are not biologically capable of manogamy. When I say most of them, I mean roughly 90% and up. Oprah did a show on cheating males a few months ago. Most of the men said they didn't cheat because the other woman was more attractive. They said it wasn't because the sex was better. They all (yes I said ALL) said they didn't know exactly why they cheated. Well, I can tell you why. It's called having a Y chromosome. If you're a man, you have a 90% chance of being unfaithful.

If I really believed a man could be faithful to me for the rest of his life, then I might seriously look for a relationship. I don't believe it's possible. I don't fault men for this, it is purely biology. By the way, I'm not the only one who thinks this way. There are actually several books on the subject. One book by an evolutional biologist from Harvard says that most men can stay faithful to a woman for only 4-5 years max. This is the time it takes for a human child to go from baby to being able to feed himself and take care of his basic needs. She says this is no coincidence. After the child reaches age 4-5 yrs old, a man will instinctively feel the need to move on to another woman.

Well, of course there are men who are more evolved. Men who can stay faithful. Those men are extremely rare and most are married or have boyfriends. :))